Comments on: True Friendship http://jennypruna.wordpress.com/2008/02/01/true-friendship/ Sun, 30 Aug 2009 03:14:12 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: daisybug http://jennypruna.wordpress.com/2008/02/01/true-friendship/#comment-31 daisybug Sat, 29 Mar 2008 01:30:50 +0000 http://jennypruna.wordpress.com/?p=6#comment-31 No Jenny - You don't NEED a gal-pal. And you can't really fake it. I have been without a "BFF" since well - honestly this may be TMI but I shall tell you - since 1996 when I discovered that the one I had for ten years (in college we were inseparable, truly twins with different mothers) was having an on-going affair with my then husband. I was more hurt by her betrayal than his - and I also blamed her almost completely for it. I find that the level of intimacy I am comfortable with MOST people in general is limited. I wouldn't lie down in traffic for anyone other than immediate family. Is this because I am bitter and jaded? Who knows - possibly. But I think I have earned the right to be protective of my heart and soul. Am I suffering in any way for my lack of a gal pal?? Heck no. My husband is fantastic. We are great friends, (He probably wishes I had a friend though - talking about mood swings and hot flashes and hormones and which purse I should buy likely gets on his nerves at times - but he hangs in there with me!) You know what I would seriously LOVE to have??? A gay best friend. Seriously. That would be so much fun! Anyway - don't stress about it - you won't be in college forever - perhaps one day someone will befriend you and you will feel differently - but maybe not and that is okay too. ~Peace No Jenny – You don’t NEED a gal-pal. And you can’t really fake it. I have been without a “BFF” since well – honestly this may be TMI but I shall tell you – since 1996 when I discovered that the one I had for ten years (in college we were inseparable, truly twins with different mothers) was having an on-going affair with my then husband. I was more hurt by her betrayal than his – and I also blamed her almost completely for it.

I find that the level of intimacy I am comfortable with MOST people in general is limited. I wouldn’t lie down in traffic for anyone other than immediate family. Is this because I am bitter and jaded? Who knows – possibly. But I think I have earned the right to be protective of my heart and soul.

Am I suffering in any way for my lack of a gal pal?? Heck no. My husband is fantastic. We are great friends, (He probably wishes I had a friend though – talking about mood swings and hot flashes and hormones and which purse I should buy likely gets on his nerves at times – but he hangs in there with me!)

You know what I would seriously LOVE to have??? A gay best friend. Seriously. That would be so much fun!

Anyway – don’t stress about it – you won’t be in college forever – perhaps one day someone will befriend you and you will feel differently – but maybe not and that is okay too.

~Peace

]]> By: Richard Cutts http://jennypruna.wordpress.com/2008/02/01/true-friendship/#comment-3 Richard Cutts Fri, 01 Feb 2008 22:55:45 +0000 http://jennypruna.wordpress.com/?p=6#comment-3 I can't really give you a female perspective but I'll put my 2 cents in anyway. Do you ever feel like you push potential friends by being too full on for them? Some people may only be looking for some light socializing. I would say I have 3 friends: 2 guys, one girl that are friends to the level you mention. They would lie down in traffic if I needed them to and visa-versa. I have known these guys 10 years now. It was never a goal to become such good friends... it just happened... if you see what I'm getting at. I can’t really give you a female perspective but I’ll put my 2 cents in anyway.

Do you ever feel like you push potential friends by being too full on for them? Some people may only be looking for some light socializing.

I would say I have 3 friends: 2 guys, one girl that are friends to the level you mention.

They would lie down in traffic if I needed them to and visa-versa. I have known these guys 10 years now. It was never a goal to become such good friends… it just happened… if you see what I’m getting at.

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