I was listening to a radio station named the Two Guys Named Chris and they were talking about a movie that one of the Chris’s saw. He said that in this movie there was a man and a woman who took their children to the pool and chatted. They both had seperate unhappy marriages and then they ended up having an affair. Chris’s wife says that these two people shouldnt even have started a friendship relationship becuase it sets up feelings that can eventually lead to an affair.
I think it is possible to be friends with the opposite sex but there has to be bounderies that cannot at any time be crossed. As long as the two people keep up a light conversation and not confide in each other, then it is possible to be friends with that person. If you confide in someone of the opposite sex, you then you will develop an emotional attachment. It is important to keep a distance with that person becuase it is possible to keep a light conversation but see that person every day or week. You must keep a distance because the more time you spend with the opposite sex, the more safe you will start to feel with that person which will lead you to confide in them. Flirting should never be allowed. I think that explains itself.
I had a guy friend here at App and I didn’t think much of it. I never saw him alone; i was always with a group of people. Me and him laughed, joked around, and he always walked me and my roomate home with his roomate becuase it would usually be 1 o’clock everytime we left and our dorm was across campus. I have always had kind of a flirtatous personality that i never notice. So eventually this guy i see at App ended up liking me…which eventually killed our relationship. All my friends say i flirt but I dont mean to. I am always just joking and having a good time…aparently thats flirting. It sucks cuz all my guy friends end up liking me due to my false signals and I hate it becuase I like to hang with guys. They dont involve emotional drama like girls…at least most of the time. The dudes just want to have a good time and thats what i look for. I dont need a best guy friend…the guy would have to be gay for me to be able to confide in them. I have a wonderful bf who I want to stay with forever so I want to be careful. But you see the problem with spending time with the opposite sex and flirting with them even when it is harmless? It is important to keep distance in order to keep that friendship. Of course there are few exceptions to were the two people can be friends and do everything that i say not to do…but just wait and see that eventually one of them will develop feelings for the other or have already tried and are ok to just being friends.
Therefore, I say if you just keep a distance, not confide in, and not flirt; you can be able to sustain a safe relationship with the opposite sex. 🙂 Otherwise…its love town for them!