Valentines Day

February 15, 2010

Girls are planning excitedly, guys are bringing out their wallets hesitantly, and the corporate industry is urging you to show your affection for your love so that you don’t lose them to someone else.

For the past 3 years, my boyfriend and I have been faithful Valentine celebrators. We would plan a dinner and buy each other gifts. This year, however, we are leaving our cash in our pockets. No outing, no presents.

I mean if you think about it? Why need to have a day to tell someone you love them? Are we that busy in our postmodern world to even look at our sweetie at least once a week and tell them that you love them? Do we all really need to pick the same day to fight for restaurant spots or sales for gifts? I think not. Call me a hippie, but I have decided to “stick it to the man” by not participating in a pointless holiday.

I mean, it is still nice to give a shout-out to friends, family and loves. But other than that, we should always tell everyone that we love them.

Plus, this holiday makes singles more longing when they should be feeling strong about being independent. But instead, they lag around wishing that they could have their very own sweetie of their own or hastily scurry to find a temp to fill in just for the day.

If you stop and look around, you will see tons of ad clutter over flowers, chocolates, and items on sale that coiuld be the best love in a box. Its everywhere! Corporate America loves holidays like these. Christmas, I am sorry to say, fits in a money mongol category of Valentines day…only, Christmas is sooooo much more forgivable becuase it brings much more things to the plate than depressing, or gooey Valentines day.

So, in the spirit of the day after Valentines (Since it is 12:43 right now), I will say “boo” to this holiday and horah for telling your sweetie that you adore them in every fashion everyday (Or at least once a week). That you are so happy your are with them becuase they give you a warm, fuzzy, and at times ichy feeling inside. You should surprise them with a rose, or fav flower on a random date like March 18th or a videogame in August. Point is, don’t depend on a vague and out of touch holiday to be honest. Be mysterious for once and remind your love what has been there all along.


True Friendship

February 1, 2008

How do you find that one special and true friend?

Finding the answer to this question is still a quest for me. Luckily I am blessed with a wonderful boyfriend that I love and I can call my best friend. However, when it comes to girls; I am not so fortunate.  So where are they? You can see in the movies and television shows these dear  friendships that last for years and years.  Ever since I hit high-school I have been searching for a girlfriend to confide in and trust; but are the girls in my generation trustworthy enough to even bother having a relationship?

Every time I have invested effort in a relationship I am met with disappointment due to the lack of reciprocation. I have only found one girl in Holland named Jayeon who really understood me and actually wanted to get to know who i was and what was going on in my life; I’ve been looking for that type of friendship ever since then. Is she a rare case? Or are there really some people out there that actually do want to get to know someone for the pleasure of just getting to know them? 

 Girl after girl, I have tried to confide in and not confide in but I still have managed to get burnt by the fires of negativity. It’s always that they are in the relationship for themselves and do not care about the other person or some sort of jealous streak overtakes their being. I dont understand it. All I want is a friend that is female for once in my life that I can share memories and experiances that isn’t my own mother or boyfriend. 

My mother is a wonderful woman. She is strong hearted and very confident.  She protects her children like a lioness and kisses us when we are vunerable. I can confide in her in almost everything.  I go to her when I have been betrayed by girls that i thought were friends and when I realized that I was in an unhealthy friendship.  She tells me that I invest too much of myself in a friendship; which I guess is true.  When I am friends with someone, I want to be there for them, hang out and share great times, and be their backup at times when the ocean wants to tear up a life. She says that in this time and age with girls, a person cannot trust a girl completly because girls are more vicious today than ever.  Looking back on my experiances I say maybe that is true. I don’t know what it was like to have a friendship back in the 80’s or 70’s but I would like to think that there is still hope. Like the other day I met the nicest human beings ever. They were so accepting and i felt appriciated becuase they actually wanted to get to know me and hang out with me. Due to my experiances the first semester in Collage, it felt nice to finally findd a bunch of girls that were nice and not into the whole college illusion of fun that consisted of drugs, alcohol and sex with every male on campus.

With this being said….Do you think that everyone will find a true gal pal to rake up the good and bad times together? Or is that just an old fashioned illusion that used to be real? It’s hard to believe that you can find a friend you have been friends with since kindergarden but with the people i know that do have that type of friendship…..there is still hope i will find another, real, Jayeon; a true friendship.